What can you expect in therapy after infidelity?
Couples therapy offers a path to recovery. It helps you express your feelings, understand what happened and, quite often, to create a relationship/marriage 2.0. Let’s talk about the stages of…
Making Agreements
How do you go from a disagreement - such as a difference of opinion or preference - to an agreement? Namely, a mutually agreed upon course of action while fostering…
The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy
The developmental model is a therapeutic approach for solving relationship issues. It doesn't pathologize people, but instead frames their problems as developmental hurdles. It provides a clear map for growth…
The challenges of anxious-avoidant relationships
Anxious-avoidant relationships (B+C) have one partner with an anxious attachment style (B) and the other with an avoidant style (C). This is the most commonly seen relationship in a couples…
What is emotional safety? Part 1
Sex is a form of adult play! So how do you create a safe playground for it? Emotional safety is the key. People come to me because they want me…
How do I create emotional safety? Part 2
Changing your behaviors and communicating effectively - In my previous post, I discussed the foundations of emotional safety. The next part of the process is to change how we communicate.…
How’s your isolationship going?
No matter the constellation, these are challenging times for relationships. People who don't live together find physical distancing hard, they feel lonely - and uncertainty about the future of the…
Your partner wants to open your relationship – but you don’t.
Are you in a situation where your partner wants you to give them all the stability and also all the freedom? However, you’re now wondering if you can be the…
Want to open a relationship – but your partner doesn’t?
You might think an agreement to get needs met elsewhere can be the glue that can keep an otherwise great relationship going. You've heard stories from couples who've done this…
Responsive Desire
Responsive desire is one of the healthy ways that people experience sexual desire. Women and their partners in long term relationship should know this. There are three ways that lead…
Demisexuality
If you’ve ever used dating apps, you’ve seen many different labels people use to describe themselves. They don’t necessarily describe fixed identities but help people to locate each other online.…
Jealousy Inventory
Questions to help escape the jealousy maze. I compiled this list for anyone who struggles with jealousy and wants to better manage their feelings.